Why It's Important For
Parents To Socialise:
Even When It Feels
Impossible

Why It's
Important
For Parents
To Socialise
Even When It
Feels Impossible

Loneliness is NOT a Dirty Word

Picture this: it’s 2:00 AM, and you’re rocking a baby who thinks sleep is for the weak. Your once-bustling social life has been replaced by endless episodes of baby shark, and you can’t remember the last time you had an uninterrupted conversation with another adult. Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

Loneliness in parenthood is a universal experience, yet no one really prepares you for it. We’re here to say it’s okay. It’s okay to feel isolated. It’s okay to miss your old life. And it’s okay to admit you need connection. Because here’s the truth: parenting wasn’t meant to be done in isolation.

Let’s talk about why socializing as a parent isn’t just a “nice-to-have”—it’s a lifeline.

The Loneliness Epidemic Among Parents

Here’s a staggering statistic: 80% of UK parents admit to feeling isolated, according to a survey by Home-Start UK. And it’s not just parents of newborns; this loneliness can linger for years.

Why is loneliness so prevalent among parents?

• Massive Life Changes:

Parenthood shifts your priorities, schedule, and identity almost overnight. Your carefree brunches with friends are now hurried cups of coffee reheated three times.

• Lack of Time:

Between feedings, diaper changes, and bedtime routines, where does socializing even fit in?

• Societal Expectations:

Parents are often expected to “have it all together,” which can make it harder to admit when we’re struggling.

And the mental health toll is real. Research shows that loneliness can increase the risk of depression, anxiety, and even physical health issues.

The good news? Connection is one of the most effective antidotes to loneliness.

Here’s what’s happening developmentally:

Growing Self-Awareness
Around age 2, toddlers begin to recognize themselves as individuals. This self-awareness leads to curiosity about others—what they’re doing, feeling, and thinking.

Learning Through Imitation
Toddlers are natural mimics. Watching other kids gives them ideas for new behaviors, words, and actions.

Building Emotional Intelligence
Interacting with peers teaches toddlers about emotions, empathy, and conflict resolution (yes, even when they’re snatching toys).

Developing Independence
Socializing helps toddlers practice decision-making and autonomy—whether it’s choosing a game or negotiating who gets the red crayon.

Why Socializing Matters for Parents

If you’re thinking, “But I barely have time to shower—why should I prioritize socializing?” we get it. But hear us out:

1. Emotional Well-being

Talking to someone who just gets it can feel like a breath of fresh air. Whether it’s venting about sleepless nights or celebrating tiny wins, connecting with other parents reminds you that you’re not alone in this crazy journey.

2. Sharing the Load

Parenting hacks aren’t just born—they’re shared. From sleep tips to snack ideas, fellow parents are an invaluable resource. Plus, you might discover that everyone else’s toddler also eats nothing but beige foods.

3. Rediscovering Yourself

Socializing isn’t just about parenting—it’s about you. Remember that person who loved karaoke nights or book clubs? They’re still in there.

4. Building a Village

You’ve heard it before: it takes a village to raise a child. Finding your village—a group of people who support you and your family—can make all the difference.

Why They’re Obsessed With Other Kids

Toddlers are wired for connection, and their obsession with seeing other kids stems from a deep need to explore the social world. Here’s why they’re so into it:

• Mirroring Behavior

Toddlers learn by copying others. Watching another child try a new puzzle or dance move can be just as captivating (and educational) as a favorite cartoon.

• Testing Boundaries

Peer interactions are a safe way for toddlers to experiment with sharing, turn-taking, and other social norms—even if the results sometimes involve tears.

• Building Friendships

While toddlers might not form deep friendships yet, they’re beginning to identify preferred playmates. These early relationships lay the groundwork for future social skills.

How to Make Socializing Easier (Even When You’re Exhausted)

We get it—making time for socializing feels impossible when you’re running on fumes. Here are some tips to make it more manageable:

• Start Small

Text an old friend. Join a local parenting group online. Sometimes, even a quick chat can lift your spirits.

• Leverage Baby Activities

Baby classes, storytimes, or playground meetups are great for your little one and a chance to meet other parents. Two birds, one stone.

• Find “Third Places”

These are spaces outside of work and home where people gather, like coffee shops or libraries. Look for family-friendly spots where you can relax and connect.

• Be Honest About Your Needs

Tell your partner or support network that you need time to connect with others. It’s not selfish—it’s essential.

The Skills Toddlers Learn Through Socializing

When toddlers play with others, they’re not just having fun—they’re developing crucial skills that will serve them for a lifetime:

1. Communication

Whether it’s saying “mine!” or negotiating a turn on the slide, toddlers practice using words to express their needs and wants.

2. Empathy

Seeing a friend cry after a toy dispute helps toddlers begin to understand others’ feelings and how their actions impact others.

3. Problem-Solving

Figuring out how to build a block tower together (without it ending in tears) fosters collaboration and creativity.

4. Patience and Turn-Taking

Waiting for their turn on the swings may be frustrating, but it’s an essential lesson in patience and fairness.

The Role of Poppit and ‘Gather’

At Poppit, we understand how hard it can be to make socializing happen, especially when you’re juggling a million things. That’s why we created ‘Gather’—a tool designed to bring parents together with ease.

With ‘Gather,’ you can:

• Discover local events and activities that fit your schedule.

• Connect with other parents who are just as sleep-deprived as you.

• Build your own village, one meetup at a time.

We take the guesswork out of planning so you can focus on what matters: meaningful connections.

Conclusion: You’re Not Alone

Loneliness in parenthood is real, but so is the solution. By reaching out, showing up, and letting others in, you can build a network that supports you through the highs and lows.

So text that friend, join that playgroup, or RSVP to that event. And if you need a little help getting started, you know where to find us.

Because at Poppit, we believe that parenting is better together.